A relationship is about two people from separate lives coming together to find a way to build a life together. It comes with ups and downs, and things are not always going to go smoothly. Knowing the kinds of problems to expect in a relationship and how to deal with them will make you feel very confident and prepared. It will also make it less likely for you to give up since you already expect these challenges.
The major challenges faced by couples and how to solve them are listed below.
When you choose somebody to share your life with, it can be very unnerving when it seems that person wants someone else. This is where jealousy sets in. A little jealousy is normal, but when you become so obsessed and insecure, you might end up ruining a good thing.
What to do? You need to find the root cause of your insecurity. Has your partner given you any reason to be jealous? If this is the case, then it’s time to talk to them. If you distrust them because of something they have done in the past, let them know you are not over it. If this is an insecurity you have all on your own, perhaps because you have been hurt by someone else, then it’s time to find a solution to that. Talk to someone to clear out old issues.
2. Feeling unappreciated
When two people come together, there will always be one person that feels he/she is doing more for the relationship than their partner. A 50:50 contribution sounds ideal, but this is almost always impossible to achieve. Someone will always be doing at least a little bit more. This might cause them to feel unappreciated or taken for granted.
What to do: Realize that the both of you are doing your very best and contributing all you can. If you feel unappreciated, then bring it up to your partner, but you should also acknowledge that your partner is doing the best he/she can. Showing your own appreciation often can also encourage them to show theirs too.
3. Money Problems
Another common reason for couples argument and fights is money. No matter how much we believe money should not be a main issue in every relationship, it often is, especially when the couple is struggling.
What to do: Remember that you are both in the relationship together. If money is tight, then it is time for you both to brainstorm on how to make things better. If it seems one person is lousy with money and is not good at managing, then it is time to make sure the right person handles the money. It is very important for couples to communicate with problems like these.
The number one cause of a broken relationship is infidelity. This will instantly cause a relationship to fail, or at the very least, cause the trust between the couples to be destroyed.
What to do: If you have been cheated on, it is time to be honest with yourself. If you believe you can never get over it, it is best to walk away or you will end up destroying both yourself and your partner due to your pain. If you feel you can forgive, then make sure you have a discussion with your partner and get to the root of why the cheating happened. Better still, enlist the help of a counselor and work hard with your partner to rebuild that trust.
5. Lack of Communication
No relationship will survive without communication. You have to tell your partner what you are feeling and you have to listen to them when they tell you what they are feeling.
What to do: If communication is lacking, then one of you has to bring it up. You might think things are fine until you wake up one day and realize your partner is now a stranger to you. Communicating ensures that you are both always on the same page. You understand each other’s dreams and challenges. This is the only way you can grow together.