Mature relationship vs Immature Relationship
Mature couples don’t “fall in love,” they step into it. Love isn’t
something you fall for; it’s something you rise for.
Falling denotes lowering oneself, dropping down and being
stuck somewhere lower than where you started. You have to
get up from falling.
Love isn’t like that — at least not with people who are doing
it right. Immature couples fall; mature couples coast. Because
love is either a passing game, or it’s forever. Love is either
wrong, or it’s right. A couple is either mature or immature.
How do you know? How can you tell if your relationship is in it
for the long haul or the two-month plummet everyone
predicted behind your love-obsessed back?
First, it should be easy, from the beginning to end. There are
no passionate fights with passionate make-up sex. There’s no
obsessive calling, texting or worrying.
There’s no real drama. Because drama is for kids.Drama is for
people who don’t know how to have a relationship — who live
by idealistic, preconceived notions that love must be wild and
Love is easy. It’s the easiest thing you’ve ever done. It’s the
calmest place in your life, the safest blanket you’ve ever worn.
It’s something that happens naturally; it doesn’t need to be
fought for day in and day out.
When you love someone, and he or she loves you, and there’s
no doubt to his or her feelings and no doubt to yours, that’s
peace of mind. A peace of mind you’ve never had before.. the
kind that humbles and revives you.
A mature relationship lives by this peace of mind; immature
ones drown in it.
Immature relationships ask questions; mature relationships
answer them
Immature relationships are all about doubts. Does he love
me? Is she cheating on me? Will we be together in two
Mature couples don’t need to ask questions. They already
know the answers, and they don’t need reassurance from their
They are comfortable and secure and free of doubt because
mature love isn’t about all those small questions, but a
comfort in knowing the big one is answered.
Immature relationships leave you wanting something; mature
relationships give you what you need
There’s a void in immature relationships, an apparent absence
and incessant worry that something’s missing.
It eats away at you when you go to sleep or leave each other
for just a few hours. It burns dimly when you’re together, but
you wave it off with sex and constant chatter.
Mature relationships have no void. There are no empty spaces
or tiny cracks. There is never a feeling that something has
been taken away or is leaving with the other person.
The love between the two mature people fills every crack in
the fiber of their being they didn’t know they had.
Immature relationships are striving to be one complete
person; mature relationships are okay being two
Immature relationships are formed by two incomplete people.
They are two halves trying to make one whole.
They are two people looking for something that can’t be found
in another person. They dominate each other, force themselves
together and make one flawed mesh of a human.
Mature couples never strive to be one. They are two individual
people looking to make two better people. The love between
the two of them isn’t about making both of them whole again,
but more individual.
It’s about pushing each other to pursue their passions,
interests and become the best person possible.
Immature relationships lose their drive; mature relationships
make you more motivated
We all get wrapped up in love. It’s easy to spend days in bed
and weekends in the hazy world of blankets and kisses.
But eventually, that smothering love is replaced with
motivated love — a type of love that comes when you want to
make a life with someone and work hard to get that life.
Immature couples never get to this.
They never feel that motivation to leave each other only to
come back more successful and more determined to make a
life for the two of them.
Immature relationships fight over text messages; mature
relationships are always face-to-face
Fighting is natural; texting is not. Mature couples do not
spend their days bickering over a screen.
When they have something to work out, they do it face to face
— where the meanings can’t be misconstrued by emojis and
auto correct. Immature couples fuel their relationship with
incessant bickering and lengthy messages.
Immature couples see long texts as evidence of their
“relationship” and find comfort in spending hours hiding behind
their phones. They argue just to argue; mature couples fight
for their future.
Immature relationships are about trying to find yourself;
mature relationships already know themselves
Relationships are only for two complete people looking for
companionship, yet many incomplete people look for it to
complete them. This is when mature relationships and
immature ones split.
You can’t have a healthy relationship with two unhealthy
people. When you’re trying to use someone to complete you,
you’re creating an incomplete relationship.
Immature relationships are threatened by everyone else;
mature relationships enjoy meeting other people
There are always going to be people in your life, pasts to each
person and surprises behind closed doors.
Mature couples, however, do not feel threatened by strangers
and past lovers. They are confident in their love and their
partner’s love.
Immature couples find threats in everyone. They’re delusional
and paranoid because their love is superficial. They do not
have a strong enough foundation to effortlessly glide past all
the distractions and threats.
Immature relationships live by preconceived timelines; mature
relationships let everything happen naturally
There’s no right or wrong time to move in together. There’s
no specific year to get married and definitely not a timeline for
your life together.
When you’re in love, things happen at their own pace. You feel
things, and you follow your heart.
Immature couples, however, don’t have those feelings, those
instincts and those effortless moments. They make up rules
and guidelines and assume time is the only thing that makes
or breaks their relationship.
Immature relationships judge you on your past; mature
relationships help you carry it
We all have a past, and in many cases, one we’re not proud
of. We can’t help what happened to people before we knew
them. All that matters is how they are now. Immature
couples, however, refuse to see beyond the past.
Mature couples don’t just accept one another’s pasts but
want to help heal the wounds. They look beyond the mistakes
and the flaws toward the beauty in the future together.


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